SecretKeepIt: relationships

Tuesday, 7 August 2012

Pedestals

When you look at something too closely it becomes a blur.

When you stand to close to something you can’t see the whole thing.

People are much the same of this. When some people are too close to somebody they end up being biased. They see them through rose tinted glasses. Nothing that person does could possibly be bad or wrong. They couldn’t possibly do anything wrong. They are perfect. They are angels.

This isn’t love, this is infatuation. Real love isn’t about holding somebody up on a pedestal it’s about loving them with their faults. Knowing that the person can be capable of doing wrong. Knowing that they are human. That is love. It’s love because you love the person wholly. You are not ignoring the bad parts or in denial about them.

Sometimes it takes a fight and a falling out for you to realize what a person is really like. When you take a step back you see the whole person, warts and all. And if you like them all the same good, at least now your not staying in the dark about what they are really like. You’re not blinded by the light. But other times you wonder what the hell you saw in that person in the first place.

That’s All For Now My Darlings!

MWAH!

-SecretKeepIt

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Thursday, 2 August 2012

Toxic

That girl is poison baby poison.

Friendships, relationships, cruiseships … scratch the last on but each one of these “ships” ought to be balances right? Well sometimes, a lot of the time they aren’t. It’s a game of give and take, but a lot of people just seem to want to take, and take, and take. And then there are those of us who are the givers the ones that end up taking the shit.

Some relationships like that are just toxic. And some of us are suckers for forgiveness and second chances. How many times does it take before we know we should get the hell out? How many times must the poison make us ill before we learn not to go near it? How many times does one person have to hurt us before we can justify abandoning “ship”?

This is how i see it; When you can recognize that the relationship is bad. When you have been hurt and you know, just know it’s going to happen again. When you realize no matter what way you flavor the poison it is still going to fuck you up, get out and don’t look back.

Friendships and relationships are supposed to bring out the best in each person. They are supposed to make you thrive to be a better person but some people don’t see it that way. Some people merely see it as an opportunity to manipulate and use somebody for their own personal gain. And when they are done they discard you until you are of use again. Well I for one don’t like to think of myself as disposable. If you decide to discard me, you better keep walking.

I’ve learned sometimes you are just better off without certain people in your life. Sometimes it’s better to cut ties for your own well being. Don’t be a doormat, When people treat you badly it’s not ok. As hard as it may be, when you really look deep down you know it’s for best.

That’s All For Now My Darlings!

MWAH!