Strut That Shit

Confidence.

The smirk, the look, the walk it’s all part of what makes a person radiate confidence but what is it that brings them there?

The cool charisma, the big personality, the ability to be oneself it all comes in hand with this brilliant trait. But it so is hard to obtain. How do we move past those voices in our head telling us not to stand out; that we’ll make a fool of ourselves. How do we stop caring what others think, ignore those judgmental looks? 

During the junior cycle of my school life I was the field mouse, the shadow, the quiet one. Yes I answered in class, raised my hand, knew all the answers but that didn’t exactly make me confident not socially. In groups I was the quiet one, who laughed along with the others but never really made the jokes. Never brought myself to the center stage.

Then something happened, a chance to start again, almost completely afresh. I got to leave the year I was in and move ahead, as I didn’t do TY. So over the summer something changed. I decided I was done being the quiet one. And magically I was confident.

No not really. I faked it. I put on this brave face. I adopted the “fake it till you make it” act. The butterflies were still there, the sudden scarlet face was always threatening to appear but I learned to act like they didn’t exist. I played the role of this brand new confident person who made people laugh, sometimes at me, but mostly with me. And eventually it stopped being an act, it was just who I was.

So my advice is, if you need that boost of confidence, just fake it till you make it. I learned the only way to earn respect almost instantly is to walk into any room as though you own it. Strut that shit, even if you think you look awful. But most importantly just let the part of you that struggles to get out past the insecurities shine, even if it is just for show.

But remember there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance so tread carefully my darlings.

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That’s all for now my darlings ;)

MWAH!

Your ever so confident -SecretKeepIt